Hey Kyle
Great news that a potential deal came knocking on your door! That's awesome!
I buy most of my houses with private money. I have been building my reputation with my lenders by doing what I say I'll do for 5 years, so they're more flexible on terms for me than is typical for new private lenders or hard money guys doing deals with strangers.
In my experience, a private money loan will get you much more favourable terms than pro hard money (longer term, lower rate, less fees/points) but ultimately its down to the specific deal you do with the lender, and how comfortable they are with you.
I have lenders I have never personally met that loan me 100% of purchase and rehab and have funded multiple deals for me. On the other hand, we had a lady come visit us a week or so ago, visit the properties, pull my credit, do a background check, speak to referals, review all the paperwork, see previous projects and spend time with my team, and she just ghosted me completely. The moral of the story is, what you offer just isnt going to be right for some folk, and that's OK. The last thing you want is a long term relationship with a nervous lender thats over commited and isnt really comfortable in the deal.
In your situation, I'd start within your existing network of friends, family and coleagues, and work out from there to try and find a lender with whom you already have some kind of relationship.
You could also ask the seller if they'd carry a note and then look to refinace later.
Good luck
DG