So this is why I got out of being a landlord. Tenants who think you owe it to them to let them live there. It's like they are doing you a favor or something.
Best thing to do is file the notice. No exceptions. Tenants give you a sob story and want you to feel bad and want you to give them a chance....and it's the same over and over. Then I realized, it's not up to me to give them a chance. The reality is when you go to landlord court, if they show up, the judge WILL give them a chance. If not, it's bye-bye. And you can be guilt free because you followed the rules.
Of course, try to collect back rent that's been awarded to you. That's another story.
I know in Ocean County, landlord eviction forms are available, I can't remember if I downloaded or went to the Toms River courthouse direct, but you can do it yourself if pockets are tight and you can't afford an attorney to do it.
The forms are relatively easy to fill out. Follow the instructions to serve the papers.