@Georgia H. Hang in there, getting that first property is often the toughest part and a big struggle.
It took me 6 months to find my first property. And I let several fall through my fingers prior to that due to not enough experience at the time. I was getting frustrated , disheartened and discouraged. I was working so hard, and receiving nothing in return. Some months I received zero leads, yet I continued to mail. Commit to being consistent and persistent and you will find properties. Do whatever it takes, get a second job if you have to that will contribute towards marketing. If your current budget is too high and unsustainable, scale it back to something that is, the key again is being consistent. And once you get your first closing, take all the money you can and pump it back into marketing as @Lamar Cannon suggested.
I just want to take a second and make sure you are structuring your marketing campaign correctly. From the onset you need to try. You cant create motivation, but you can try to filter your lists such that there is potential for it. Some "red flags" can potentially be: code violations, out of state absentee owners, probate, inheritance list etc. Also make sure you are filtering for equity. You can use list source LTV ratio as a rough approximation or use deed date 15+ years back (this is what I personally use). Because remember you need equity & motivation to get a good deal on a property typically.
The next most important factor is to set a mailing schedule such that you touch on the same lead list multiple times throughout the year. Personally here is what I do after I have generated a list.
The number of leads I pull from the list is dependent upon what my monthly marketing budget is. For example if I can afford to spend $1,000 per month on mailers (you don’t have to start here) that’s roughly 3,000 post cards.
Continuing on the above example, then you break your large list, into 3 groups of 3,000 leads. Group A, B and C. Then for the whole year I continue to mail these groups rain, sleet or snow. The mailing schedule might look like this
Group A – Jan 3,000 cards
Groub B – Feb 3,000 Cards
Group C – March 3,000 Cards
Group A – April 3,000 Cards
Groub B – May 3,000 Cards
Also keep in mind a sellers motivation will change through time. They may not be motivated or even call if you mail them in January. However, by the 4th mailing come September they may very well be motivated and your message will have been received by them 4 times.
Drive for dollars if you can, its great and only costs you time and gas money. I wrote about it in depth on the BP blog Driving for Dollars guide.
After that first property, it seemed like momentum really started to pick up for me. I get calls from postcards I sent out months ago, the marketing will build on itself. Hang in there, you can do this. All the frustration and hardship is SO worth it in the end. Keep at it.
Sorry for the long post, truly hope it helps.