i would think if you're buying through them, then you're compensating them bc they're getting a buyer's agent commission...i tell my buyer's agent that i always list with a flat fee so he knows ahead of time, this way he doesn't feel slighted by me...but you can also list with that agent if you want..and again, it doesn't hurt to take them to lunch...what are you trying to do exaclty?

We have lots of pain a head but when we come out of this in 5-10 years the people that bought at distressed prices will be the ones with all the money.

These steps are difficult to accomplish all by yourself.I also recommend reading "The Richest Man in Babylon"Good Luck and be thankful that you are looking ahead.

Stop paying rent until things are fixed.If he threatens eviction, tell him to go ahead, give him NO MONEY.

I would find an eviction lawyer and then bring things to a head: confront the boyfriend with a list of violations and say that if there are any more the next thing he will hear from you will be an eviction notice, no negotiations.

You need a professional service to check which position loan is in and what liens are ahead or behind the loan.As due diligence on non-performing side of note business you need to check taxes, title, and property condition/value.

My best recommendation is to go ahead and get some informed second opinions on your estimated rehab costs and ARV. 

So I am not coming out ahead in this transaction.

If he proves consistent then bring him in and let him have a piece, but get your T&Cs taken care of ahead of time.

My only experience is that I know the construction game and have made some good money from flips in easy times....this is a different time but there are a million articles in here about reacting to different markets so I plow ahead...sort of fearless at this point!