Boyfriend Issues

[Luke Megna]

Hello there,

I am new to the forums though I have been an avid listener of the podcast for a while now. I purchased a condo as a buy and hold six months ago. My first tenant's boyfriend appeared almost immediately after she moved in and I have received a couple of complaints from the HOA about him being rude and breaking association rules. Recently, she asked if he could officially move in. Simultaneously, I received additional complaints from the HOA about rules he has broken as a guest that he claims are not violations because he "lives there."

I do not want him to move into the unit because obviously he is a problem in the community.  But because he has likely been unofficially living there all along, I don't see how I can ask him to leave without creating problems with my tenant and risking damage to my property.

Any suggestions for handling this situation?  Is there an amicable way to just ask the tenant and her boyfriend to move along or is that far too naive.

Thanks,

Luke