Buying an investment property is exciting - especially your first.Stay in control of your emotions.

Do not let the emotion of wanting to get started in REI drive you into making a bad decision.

I didn't bring up the rent collection because she was very angry and emotional.

@phaniI would search Rich dad poor dad coaching here on BiggerPockets there's thousands of posts about people that of been to Free and Paid coachingI'm a coach myself and I have had people that have not been happyUnderstand that the people talking to you in a seminar are very skilled at getting your emotions up@Phani Malepati

I do like my privacy, but most things are bearable for a spell.So taking emotion out of the deal, would it be better to have: a 4 plex as an investment, and a tiny home elsewhereOr a 4 plex and live in 1 of the units?

Not emotional - just as an investment.

@Ben Gabin in a nutshell: sell it, people are emotional, don’t get greedy.

I have personally found that sometimes its hard to not get emotional with potential deals (its getting less and less with more deals that we look at).  

They'd value it higher than you will, maybe by quite a large margin, because they're buying on emotion, not numbers or cash flow, like yourself. 

Usually even if it has a winning bid the buyer drops out and then the bank sells it or the seller through a listing broker.Like anything it is a sales strategy that sometimes works and other times does not.I generally stay away from buying properties where there are emotional bidders involved.