Furthermore, because of many aspect to everyday life, I became fearful and did not have a support group...

But anything you do for income is going to have some unpleasant "work" aspects to it. 

Talk to local attorney on legal aspects and documents to structure this.Occasionally the seller will be open to carry as 2nd loan for the portion of down payment

If you're considering selling your home I would definitely take advantage of the Home Sale Tax Exclusion: https://turbotax.intuit.com/tax-tips/home-ownership/tax-aspects-of-home-ownership-selling-a-home/L6tbMe3DySince you're married, if you've lived in the property for two full years or longer you would be eligible for the $500,000 tax-free amount. 

I am looking at wholesale deals and getting into that aspect of investing and am trying to get good flip and hold deals that way instead of from the MLS.

@Morgan McConnellIt is factually scientifically true that men are less risk adverse and women are more risk adverse.

I am fairly new to the real estate world, but I've been extremely interested in all aspects of development for resorts and other resort-style properties (second homes, vacation homes, resort-style MF, etc.) 

@Richard Merkuris I think since you have so much experience with the hands on/rehab aspect that the best thing to do would be a financial partner to go in on the deal with who could help get you started and into some better financing terms. 

Since you are new to this aspect of design and dont have a trusted relationship with an architect already I would not suggest picking one that doesnt have experience already.

@Michael Wallimann - agree with you on the market prices and appreciation aspect of the properties upstate.