Most contractors don't which keeps them on the hamster wheel forever.'

Eric is correct on the minimal cost with above average durability.

I can hear the wheels run over the tile as they ride back and forth (in an 800 sf apartment) for what seems to be like hours some days. 

You want to consider both units of measurement when determining the durability and longevity of vinyl flooring.The better your wear layer the greater longevity of the product (which means less time down for repair or replacement).

I agree with these possibilities, and unfortunately I hoped for a new approach in which I can work with them and grease the wheels to get the result I want, but you are basically just saying move on, which is easier in the end. 

I would look at comps for high durability designs that are still visually attractive. 

Don't forget to look at the rental comps as well, closed and available to see what your 'competition' is up to.I always go for a mixture of tough/durable and nice fixtures in my BRRRRs.

I have a management company for my other pieces of real estate though and thought I could use it for the same purpose with the hotel and that would provide a much more durable case.

Additionally, I'd appreciate any tips on balancing cost-effectiveness with durability.

I'd keep contacting the Code Enforcement Office (based on the squeaky wheel gets the grease theory).