I read through the entire thread and I don't know why people are negative towards hard money lenders. I use hard money on most of my flips and I am grateful for it. All you have to do is factor in your hard money costs to make sure the deal makes sense with using hard money. Once you build a relationship with a few hard money lenders they usually start to give you preferred rates. I have 4 hard money lenders that I have either used on a flip or who are wanting me to use them with my next flip. Here are some of the terms that we have found in our market of Arizona.
90-100% of purchase price at 16% interest and $1100 doc fee, no points.
92% of purchase at 12% interest with $700 doc fee, no points.
80-90% of purchase and rehab at 12-15% interest with 1-2 points.
80% of purchase plus doc fee.
We have a HELOC, some business LOC, and several credit cards with high limits. We usually don't put any of our own money into the deals and we haven't had any hard money lenders deny us because of that. They are in first position and we have a great track record so they don't ask if the money we are putting in for the down is our own or if it is borrowed.
The problem with trying to get bank loans is it usually takes too long. One of the advantages that an investor has over a traditional buyer is speed. You can usually offer a lower price if you can promise a quicker close and a cash offer (hard money is the same as a cash offer with our offers).
Credit card companies often advertise 0% cash advances for 12-18 months for at 2-3% fee. This is a great source of money. Say you have 5 credit cards between you and your spouse and each has a limit of 20k. You could get 10k from each card and have 50k to use towards the down payment and the rehab. You would be charged $1500 (at 3%) to be able to use their 50k for a year. That's great. The thing to keep in mind though is you need to keep your accounting straight and if you make purchases with the credit cards after the cash advances then you start paying interest on the new purchases right away. So you might want to have a different card for your other day to day purchases. Make sure you pay the cards off before the 0% term is over. Also, you will probably see a dip in your credit scores while you are using your lines of credit so keep that in mind because it may effect interest rates on things that you might need for your self like a car loan or a personal home loan or if you want to get a cash out loan on a buy and hold property.
With all this being said, I do agree that partnering with someone who has successfully done some flips is a good idea. You can offer to put up money for the down payment and the rehab in exchange for experience and training. This could end up saving you a ton of money from the mistakes that you will most likely make as you learn the process.
I hope this helps. Good luck and let us know how it goes.