@Suduk N. typically if they are painted (excl pro furniture type), you just repaint them if nec. Prep work is key and using the appropriate type paint. If using appropriate paint it should hold up and just be wiped clean.
IKEA shaker cabs are RTA and they wipe clean. They offer very good quality where it matters such as drawer rails (Blum) etc., easy to assemble, and easy to hang. There are different price points for the fronts. I think the white shaker ones are about middle or slightly higher. They have nominal upgrade options. During my ownership, I like just being able to return a damaged piece and get a replacement. (Swelled sink cabinet door). Maintenance/replacement costs reduced. YMMV. You can logon to their online kitchen design software from their site. Draw ur own and it calculates the cost. I caught a 'special' where they rebate you the cost of using their human 'design service' that comes to property and draws out an IKEA plan with measurements. You take to store and order. I didn't encounter any out-of-stock items, but I got them shortly after their new cabinet line was offered earlier this year. They also sell the popular granite, Quartz and anything a one-stop shop place would have. I didn't want an IKEA kitchen so I just used their cabinets. Pulls/knobs from big box stores.
Sorry, I don't know anything about the stain yourself ones @ HD. It's a time consuming process to do properly.