Update:
Some time has passed and I wanted to share my decision. It may not be the right decision for everyone, but I felt that it was the right decision for me and my family at this point in our lives.
Well first, I should explain where I am in life and what my strategy is so you understand where I'm coming from. I'm 35 years old with a 1 year old son. My husband and I both work W2 jobs that we don't love, but don't hate either. Our goal is to reach financial freedom before the age of 40 so we can retire and enjoy the rest of our lives. There may or may not be a second child that comes into the picture. We are buy and hold investors with 2 SF properties under our belt. Going forward, we plan to use the BRRRR strategy to aggressively expand our portfolio into multifamily and commercial investing.
So that brings me to my decision- I decided to withdraw the money from my SDIRA, pay the 10% penalty, and use it to add more properties to my portfolio. I understand that I am losing out on the tax benefits of the Roth IRA. At this point, I think having access to every dollar we can get our hands on will only increase our chances of reaching financial freedom sooner. I don't want to wait 25 years before I can access that money when it can have a much greater impact for us now. If all goes according to plan, we won't even need any extra money in 25 years because we will own a paid off portfolio of properties and we'll probably have more money than we've ever dreamed of.
I'm not saying the other options weren't good ones. They just weren't right for me at this point in my life.
After all, life is short and 25 years is a long ways away.