What I would start with asking myself is what are all of my expenses associated with this venture. 

If there a "Legal Aid" non-profit group in your area maybe you could contact them for free help or contact a lawyer.In my State, I believe I could evict for illegal activity because my lease says that I can.One of the problems with illegal drugs is that the landlord could lose his property if someone is dealing there which is unfair, in my opinion, to the landlord. 

My advice to you when sourcing outside capital would be to CLEARLY define roles...  40+ units is no small venture. 

That's a little worrisome on a 5 year fixed rate that if they lose their aggressiveness the rate adjustment might be more substantial than at Synovus.I am personally still doing my refinances with Synovus (finishing up number 3 BRRR now) but that's also just because I haven't needed to get more than 70% LTV.

If instead you think you have a money losing property part way through and sell for a loss it is not a good strategy :)Also, I forgot to mention in my last post, many of the comments above where people suggest you find some of your own contractors/service providers are good advice.

You’d lose a year or two of cash flow to offset the cost.

I don’t want to lose them but I also don’t want to miss out on that much potential rent.

She asked ”I am on the property but not the mortgage, there is between 35k - 48k worth of equity, so they tell me, obviously my husband is behind in payments, this was my parents home and I don't want to lose it.

So if I'm a local LO and want my reputation among local Bay Area Realtors to be that my preapproval letter is as good as gold, the wonky ones are full TBD Approvals even if it means I occasionally lose business from one of my fellow perpetually impatient "now now now" instant gratification-seeking millenials. 

How do I fix this without losing my current deal?