Update 2 years later..

You need to bird dog with an experienced wholesaler in your market or invest in on-site mentoring unless you want to keep doing what you are doing, which is spinning your wheels.The guy I used to set up my wholesaling business came on-site for 3 days, and when he left, I had 4 deals in the pipeline, one of which I sold 10 days later.  

@Jeff Bridges how is the investment a few years later?

You can always decide to sell your current SFR later, if you want to.This assumes real estate is the best investment option open to you right now.

I was looking to help out family members that were moving into town that needed a place to stay. 6 months later, things are not working out with the family and I need to move on and pursue my goals of investing now that I have learned many lessons the hard way.

If I later sell the flip for $200,000, since I am owner, is it fair to write up the listing agreement (that I sign myself I guess) where list side is 0% and buy side is 3% so I do not have any listing commission income and the profit goes to the home.

If it is the later, then you can just sell the house, because each house had enough collateral to support the loan against the property.

How about staying in Mt view rental house and buying a multi home somewhere in san jose, and save some for another either investment or for our own home later. 

Also thinking the poured in place option vs poured upside down then installed later,,,to be an easier one man band operation,,,more forgiving IF walls are imperfect. 

Or of a good ways to do a lease option for me to get my first house, and possibly sell down the road/couple years later?