But reality is that some investors are so busy, they use people like me who do this full time to buy the properties for them.

Recommend you try to search here on BP for posts about S8, so you get the reality, NOT the hype!

The other 99% can't put the pieces together either in their mind to make it happen, or in reality.

The reality is the opposite - if it's not in writing then the PMC doesn't have to provide the service or can charge extra for it!

I am at the beginning stages to take my idea of a 506(b) or 506(c) fund and make it a reality. 

They may look promising on paper but often underperform in reality due to management challenges and unexpected expenses.Given your situation, a SFH in a good area of South Jersey could be a solid starting point.

I did another one were I paid 240k for the property and a developer swallowed us up in 18 months and we sold for 970k.. without doing much to the project.As Cody mentions this is not for everyone and I would say very few could do this in reality. 

The homes prices are way above reality as well as the taxes and most HOA's.

So in reality the IRS already recognizes you and your wife as the tax payer and exchanger (becuase of the joint tax return reporting the activity of the property).Here are your options to purchase1.

I know, but mass ignorance does not change the reality of it any less.