The funny thing is, my alternative proposal does involve removal.

Better tax treatment?

Also, I believe he may be liable to pay for alternate housing if yours is deemed un-inhabitable (as it seems to be from your post).

Or alternatively, can I ask for an additional security deposit to include him on the lease and include an addendum that any fees from the HOA need to be paid out of pocket as opposed to being deducted from their security deposit?

This is turning into a really great thread to expose the fraud & BS that shysters like Scott Carson & Eddie Speed sugar cost that investing in defaulted notes is such a great alternative to going out and buying a house at 70% of ARV less repairs.

These investments do no incur any taxes or penalties and they receive the tax-advantaged treatment of the IRA or 401k you are using to invest.As others have mentioned, you can open an account with a self directed IRA custodian.

We all want care and treatment like we would give, we plan for neglect and abuse like we expect, and reality is somewhere in the middle.

Alternatively i can terminate and only pay reminder of their pm fees or 6 months whichever is less, and still cannot hire another pm co.

But there's no sense in risking resentment from your wife when you have other alternatives available.  

This is a free alternative and Facebook already has a massive online presence that will help boost your page.