The wholesaler is discouraging us from bringing contractors through to get estimates because he says he doesn't want to bring a lot of strangers through the house and inconviencing the tenants.

For that reason I don't lease to people I know unless they meet the same standard that I set for absolute strangers.  

Is it waste of time trying to get strangers to attend a "private lender luncheon?"

This is the price of giving strangers your phone number. :)

You don't have the right to invent a narrative about a total stranger.

It's not because I feel uncomfortable picking up the phone and calling a stranger.

I personally hate asking my money guy to open up his bank account to a stranger to show this proof when his web site has over 200 of his homes from 30 years in the business.

Unless you know the agent well, she's giving entry information to a stranger.

Rowe price, and having strangers who they've never met make decisions on investing their money, but it's a lot more scary to invest in actual individuals.

Nothing breaks up friends and family relationships like money issues, formalize the relationship as if you were strangers in a well planned business entity.