The home is all women and then him and he is very very OCD and obsessive about everything in the house along with being a 6.5 ft abrasive guy he constantly is causing issues with other tenants over trivial things.

I know my response was a bit abrasive. 

Have you tried something with a bit of an abrasive? 

., the window sill, window trough, or floor) are equal to or greater than the standards specified in 24 CFR 35.1320(b); (ii) There is evidence that the paint surface is subject to abrasion; and (iii) Lead-based paint is known or presumed to be present on the friction surface

It is like Shane's idea, of protected poly wood.What I do is pull all the trim and label and number it.Then TSP it (and this is the non-painted trim recipe for wood trim) and de-gloss it with the abrasive side of scotch bright sponge (which I dip in the TSP).

And as for answering back abrasive comments, I'm defending my brand.

The main guy who runs this site is pretty rough (abrasive) on his students (to a point that it's abusive in a way).

You will need to degloss the cabinets anyway (whether painted or wood) so go with the abrasive side of a scotch bright sponge for the TSP application there.

Flooring has come a long way so I was hoping there was something line vinyl plank but for countertops in a large slab, I.e. something less expensive than stone, but still impervious to water, and tough enough to defend against any abrasions, scrapes, etc.  

If no one answered I left a note.The people that did answer the door were not surprised and had no interest in selling to me, mostly just abrasive folks, most of the time I wasn't the first.