CB,
Ask your realtor if they know the rules of Home Valuation Code of Conduct (HVCC). This may be where the problem is.
Some agent either don't know the rules or do not clearly understand what is and what isn't permissible under the HVCC rule.
The one rule of coercion is the one that some agents do not have a clear understanding. Basically, an agent cannot provide specific comps for an appraiser to use in the report. However, an agent can provide multiple comps to bring to the appraisers' attention of their availability.
It is no more than saying to the appraiser, " I know you may find other comps, but I want you to be aware that these comps are available".
Often, appraisers and realtors ( when asked to complete an appraisal or bpo) are selected from other parts of the state and may not know the particulars that make up a neighborhood.
Suggesting other comps for the appraiser to choose from does conflict with HVCC.