@Marcia Maynard Thank you! That was a very helpful post.
I agree, the relationship with the PM has deteriorated. This was a 3 month trial period that went... poorly to say the least.
Point #2 - that's a great idea, and I just contacted their case worker to discuss it. We'll see if anything comes of that.
Point #4 - great to know - that was my key concern, that suddenly he was saying the judge would side against us despite the 2 month lack of rent. I thought I smelled BS, but as I'm inexperienced in evictions wasn't 100% sure.
The property is over in Wasco county, which still has a low vacancy problem, but not dire.
Point #6 - Yes, I just meant... 72 hours and then go file eviction, was just being snarky. I know the eviction process for Oregon in theory, just haven't applied it directly yet, and my PM is taking advantage of that. I'll definitely make sure I follow the law on this, but still have first timer nerves :/
Point #7 - Good point, and that's part of my anger, that we should have been working with them the 2nd week of November, not the beginning of December. Guess I need to cut the PM out of the conversation and work directly with them.
Point #9 - Yes, this is another worry. We thought about offering $400 cash for keys, but it seems like they just have nowhere else to go and wouldn't be able to work with us on it.
Point #10 - Thank you! Another great idea - I'll check up on that. Especially since they have children at home.
#11 - Me too, but your information is really helpful - just knowing more about which steps I should take moving forward is taking a lot of the stress off.
Seriously, I'm breathing again. Thank you.