@Sarah Miller
I'm from MA and funded my first flip recently with a HML that we are hopefully closing on this week or next : ) that being said, he's not sketchy at all, actually, I've grown to have a great relationship with him over these past few months. I've learned more and more that real estate is a life long game and patience is key. Baby steps but what I did and what seemed to work for me is.
1.) Attend as many local REIA's as possible. There are many people that can help fund deals from HML to brokers whom will be willing to sit down with you and give you their success stories, what they've done, who've they worked with and so on and so forth.
2.) Don't be shy. If your an introvert by nature, blast some music in the car before you go into these REIA's and tell yourself your going to talk to everyone and at least introduce yourself and ask what they do and what got them attending REIA's. Conversation brews and then you can start asking them how they funded their deals. Just by practicing this you'll likely run into someone that lends money, and you probably don't even know it.
3.) Have a clear plan and be professional. Know your numbers. No lender will lend money to someone they don't trust and won't lend money to someone that they believe is a risk, even if you aren't. This is where your persona comes into play and your ability to build rapport.
4.) I enjoy @Ann Bellamy's comment on sketchy people. Sketchy people exist everywhere, it's up to the individual to define what is sketchy in their eyes. You can't just label a class as sketchy or all HML's as sketchy. Read up on it, attend local REIA's and ask about it there are many success stories with it. It is on you to really understand the in's and out's, if it would work for you, and develop relationships with HML's whom are clearly "not" sketchy. If you really still concerned or overwhelmed with a lot of the knowledge that comes your way because you might not be familiar, talk to a RE lawyer you trust.
Basically, the more you network, the more you build rapport and the more you build trust among peers, the longer and wider the road to success will be. You're bound to make mistakes, everyone does, just at the end of experience take a look back at what you did, what you could do better, and what you are going to do better in the future.
Good Luck!