I've always liked the saying that problems are opportunities in disguise. If I were in your shoes, here is what I would do.
1. Dig deeper with your CPA or find a new one the specializes in real estate.
I'm not an accountant. However, if you file a joint return and elect to group all your rentals as a single activity, you should be able to bypass the passive loss limitation since your wife is a realtor working full time and assuming she is working on the rentals. This is partly why Donald Trump can avoid paying federal income taxes. This is my understanding and you need to verify this of course since my advice is worth exactly what you are paying for it right now.
- Sit down with your wife and map out your why.
- Do you really need all this taxable income?
- Could you simplify your lifestyle?
- Downsize?
- Move to the same market as your Dentist friend for a lower cost of living/lifestyle with better real estate returns?
You are in a unique position with your income and skill set. Technically, you could go after multi family deals instead of single family deals to replace all of your spouse's income. She could run the multi family side by overseeing the property mangers.
Here comes the interesting part. If you look at your after tax take home income, you could easily replace it by finding the right buy and hold deals after you factor in the almost tax free nature of buy and hold real estate. This might require buying and holding a series of multi-family properties. Maybe it means a 50 plus unit deal.
Check out the Wheelbarrow Profits podcast or book by Jake and Gino. Don't worry, I'm not affiliated with these two guys.
Bottom line...depreciation expense offsetting my active income was my big wake up call after my CPA called me about 12 years ago and said I was getting a tax refund after having to always pay taxes in my day job.
I still work my day job, but my professional real estate/rental income status dwarfs my other income.
Once I discovered my true take home income, I set a course to replace all of it with tax favored rental income. It was actually easier than I thought it would be since the tax benefits kept snowballing as I added more multi's.
2. Notes or crowdfunding?
You are smart to question the high returns in notes and other ventures. I'm VERY biased here so here is my opinion on notes and crowdfunding.
Real money goes to the owners and not the loaners. On a note, you lose all the amazing benefits of buy and hold real estate. Frankly, buy and hold residential real estate is the most tax favored investment in the country.
Let's count the 6 ways you make money.
1. Cash flow
2. Depreciation which makes the cash flow virtually tax free if done right. Better yet, can offset active income.
3. Equity capture by purchasing a value add deal
4. Appreciation. Real estate keeps pace with the cost of living.
5. Mortgage paydown. Your tenants pay your mortgage and you keep the benefits of the interest deduction and the principal paydown on the loan.
6. A bank will loan you the money to capture all these benefits. Try asking for a loan to invest in stocks or one of the crowdfunding platforms or notes.
You are asking all the right questions. Now you need to design your perfect life and then execute on the income portion via real estate, a small business, etc.
By the way.....never ask financial advisor who only knows how to sell stocks and bonds if real estate is a good investment.