@Michael Gibson - It sounds like you're where I was when I started (although I didn't have any kiddos yet).
I started with no money to speak of. I got my first deals by grinding.
If you have no money, but are willing to put in time, I would recommend working Craigslist... HARD. Create ad campaigns for your target areas, and refresh them as often as Craigslist will let you. Find people who are selling their homes, and call them. At least 10 a day. Set up meetings, walk the houses, and make offers.
While you're doing this, read all the books you can about rehab costs, buy and hold investing, and flips. That way, you can understand buyers. Buy used copies online - many are less than $10. If you're working tighter than that, scour your local library system, and get book recommendations on BiggerPockets.
Go to local networking meetings, and go regularly. Many are free, and you will make a lot of connections that will help you in your work.
If you can find a good, inexpensive wholesaling class (either locally or online), and can make it work, it would be well worth it. If you need to pick up a bit of extra work, or sell some things around your house for the books or the classes, you probably won't regret it.
It may take a while to find one, and that's normal. This is hard stuff. But by ACTING, you will gain a ton of experience, and in 6 months, you will be a MUCH wiser wholesaler.
Once you earn a bit of money, you can dedicate more to your marketing, and your success will multiply.