Originally posted by "alanbrymer":
The practice has infuriated me for as long as I can remember—mostly because:
1) I am not one of those children or grandchildren,
2) The wacked-out principles behind such gifts, and
3) What often happens to the money and the recipients.
Well, that just about says it all 8) I'm sure you probably don't mean it that way, but it just sounds like you're ticked (or bitter?)
My parents were very poor. They had no way to help any of us monetarily and we all turned out okay. But that's because of an inheritance that had nothing to do with money. What they gave was something much more important-- love, support, and an example of strength and self-sufficiency.
My kids will receive an inheritance because they are *my kids.* Mine. My flesh and blood. It's my responsibility to make sure they learn sound financial principles and responsibility, but even if one turns out to be a bad apple, they will still get the same as everyone else because inheritance is based on relationship, not whether or not someone 'deserves it.'
And what kind of inheritance does a child receive when Dad 'could've' helped out but didn't because 'he said I didn't deserve it?'
As parents, we will give our kids an inheritance whether we mean to or not.