I missed this thread last summer-- but Heather? If you're still around and reading this, it sounds like you're doing a great job and you have just the right attitude to get out of this and move on to building true family wealth.
Yes, we were in a very similiar place at one time. If you want, you can read about it over on my blog... won't go into the whole story again here :D
One little aside: When we were at our tightest (paying for bills with credit cards :oops: ) DH and I talked about cutting expenses. We'd cut back most everywhere except food and I knew we could save a couple of hundred every month by serving beans and rice, cutting out fresh veggies and fruit and buying in bulk. (We'd already cut out all chips, snack food and processed convenience foods long ago.) DH's reaction was a resounding, "NO FLIPPIN' WAY"
I'd forgotten that dh had grown up without enough to eat and spent most of his childhood hungry. He absolutely would not stand to see our 4 kids without all the fresh fruit and real meat they wanted (not hotdogs or Spam :mrgreen: )
Anyway, we made it just fine without canceling the cable or the veggies. The key was increasing our income, not lowering expenses. DH worked on his off-days from his primary job doing remodeling and odd jobs for friends and the families of friends, cleaning houses for a local real estate office and other not-so-fun stuff while I learned about business and real estate. Our kids are in college now and we're doing very well, thanks :wink:
Good job, hon :cool: