@Bill B.
Respectfully, I very much understand the situation.
When she bought, it probably made more sense to buy versus renting. Now, that's not the case in many locales. Sucks not to own, but the appreciation being offered isn't a good investment in my eyes.
Renting and investing the difference would benefit many in this situation. Having liquidity to buy at a better time. It's such an overgeneralization to say that houses go up in value. Obviously mostly true, but who would prefer to buy in 2007 vs. 2008? I'll take 4 houses for the price of one any day. The time frame and slope of the curve have a lot to do with such a blanket statement. Doesn't matter if the house will be worth $1B in 2 years if I can't carry it that long.
I'm not interested in breaking this down year by year into it's true numbers, but apparently the S&P 500 average has been 11.36% since 1983. So, if she had rented instead of buying, had invested her $500 and an extra $37 a month, it would be $400k right now. Of course, she doesn't have a mortgage payment and her rent would've gone up in the meantime, but again, there are so many 'what ifs' in this situation, it's borderline irrelevant. For instance, what if 3 years in she could've bought the same house for $22k. She would've been sitting on a bigger down payment and could've bought then. Really, who knows?
The real question for me as an investor is what do I want to do with my dollar now? Do I want to tie it up in an illiquid investment where I have to fight with tenants, replace HVACs, and vacancies hoping to hold on long enough to make money in 10 years of appreciation or would I rather keep it working and liquid until I can make a better investment when the time is right?
So, kinda piggybacking on what was mentioned earlier by Mike Dymski, what are the actual numbers? What would my dollar get me? I want more than a platitude about "don't wait to buy, buy and wait". Someone (with numbers) convince me that my $1 should go to their market...