HI @James Hutson,
I was in the same situation as you a few months ago. Ideally, I wanted to find a small multi that I could owner occupy and live for cheap/free. It isn't just you having trouble to find anything that makes financial sense, as It proved to be EXTREMELY difficult for me to find ANY type of multifamily that wasn't either in the hood or way to expensive in comparison to market rent.
I moved on and began focusing my search on only townhomes and SFR's, but one day a Duplex in a good neighborhood in Raleigh popped up. I viewed the property within 16 hours of it being listed, was the first offer, but the listing agent called me the next day saying their were now multiple offers. I ended up paying 15,000 over listing price, but I got the place renovated, rented out the other side, and am hitting the 1% rule and living for free. I also used an FHA loan and this was my first property. I did all of this with very minimal cash and I guess you could say it was a bit risky.
I guess my advice would be to jump on any multi that looks like a good deal immediately, or maybe organize some sort of marketing campaign to scoop up an off-market duplex at a discounted price. PM me if you want more info about the numbers on my property. I can go into vast detail if you want.
Good luck!