The problem is the Board.

Try to have a sit down meeting with the HOA board which may only be three people.  

Here’s a fun way to think about getting your spouse on board: focus on what not to do.Don’t talk about REI every single day.Too much can be overwhelming.

Quote from @Michael Chalke: Quote from @Jonathan Greene: So, you already have your NJ RE license?

My interest rate and purchase price wouldn’t allow for positive cash flow unless I charged an unreasonable rent—or put about $500K toward the principal, which isn't ideal.I’m a high earner, so I’m weighing my options:Take the loss ($60K-$100K), buy another house, and chalk this up to a hard lesson learned.Refinance, put more money into it, and rent it out long-term—even if it’s not immediately profitable.Invest my money elsewhere and try to make peace with staying here for several years or just move.Would love to hear thoughts from anyone with experience in real estate, financial strategy, or noise mitigation.

Chalk it up as lesson learned!

My interest rate and purchase price wouldn’t allow for positive cash flow unless I charged an unreasonable rent—or put about $500K toward the principal, which isn't ideal.I’m a high earner, so I’m weighing my options:Take the loss ($60K-$100K), buy another house, and chalk this up to a hard lesson learned.Refinance, put more money into it, and rent it out long-term—even if it’s not immediately profitable.Invest my money elsewhere and try to make peace with staying here for several years.Would love to hear thoughts from anyone with experience in real estate, financial strategy, or noise mitigation.

I'd pay it & chalk it up to lesson learned.

If so, I know credco for us sends someone to our office to make sure we are compliant.When we boarded on the IM side it was intense but I actually am glad to go through that process, it means they are serious about compliance.

Another would be you are building other units next door/nearby and you can chalk this build up to the "learning curve".I didn't see a CFO on GLH or GLC's website, but I'm sure you have someone doing this type of financial analysis for your developments?