However, I noticed that the price to rent is comparable to the fixed monthly costs (mortgage, taxes, insurance, condo fee) if I were to purchase a place, and I would have control over making modifications to suit my needs.

For example, landscape maintenance, pest control, gutter cleaning and snow removal.

Some are going to want full control of the deal, and you out of the way (wholesale).

She is clearly in control of the situation and has you on your heels.

I never care if there are other offers, that doesn't change mine because I'm strictly by the numbers and not emotions.

You would not technically "own" the property this year, but you would control it- don't know it that qualifies as meeting your goal or not ;)

Remember you don't have to own a property to control it.Download BP’s newest book here some good due diligence in Chapter 10.

I am trying to craft a way to be able to control this property, fix it up a bit to force its appreciation, then seek a loan.Rather than go to the bank for a loan for the triplex AND the refi, is it possible (assuming a willing owner) to lease option the building and have as much of the lease payment as possible (shoot for 100%!!!)

Remember you don't have to own a property to control it.Download BP’s newest book here some good due diligence in Chapter 10.

If the controller is outside , even better , he can set the clock and start times .