They dont even think that you are unbankable, they dont really care.

If it were me I would take off the trim, (carefully as I could) take down the tiles and see what I have.

My question is, if she doesn't agree to take care of the balances in full, should i start the eviction process? 

It's faster and cheaper to get them to admit they abandoned the stuff and don't care.

While you can hire 3rd parties to take care of everything, you still need to manage them and note Investing is anything but passive.

Turns out one was a computer gambling business and the other was an e-cig business.I don't care why the applicant doesn't want to tell you, but if I don't know the business, I don't consider the application. 

your day job also puts you in a good position to deal with tenants whom over the years I feel its like family counseling nad or child day care..

If it is obvious then a good appraiser should see it and adjust comps accordingly. you could also use this as a reason to lower the sale price, but be careful, if you try to renegotiate the seller has the right to walk away at that point also.

The US offers amazing opportunities for real estate investing, although you have to be careful in some markets that are really hot right now. 

Only 1 emphatically said that they were like family that took care of each other and that's the one I went with.