It's a laid back environment where we hang out, have a few drinks and talk about real estate investment.

Is the environment typically fairly relaxed or would I be unwelcome for wasting people's time?

Talk to the tenant about an increased level of noise, and remind them of their responsibility to maintain a peaceful environment.   

Respectfully TomMThe VA. loan for your personal residence ( 4 plex with you in one of rhem is fine ) is ONLY for the Vet buying the prop.

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The activities of wife with respect to the rental properties included, among other things, cleaning common areas, collecting coins from washing machines, performing repairs at the properties, communicating with tenants, collecting and depositing rent, maintaining insurance policies, purchasing materials for the properties, as needed, paying bills and keeping books and records for tax accounting purposes.

The therapist told us it would be good to keep him in a stable environment (he has never been in one...

Landlords need to be transparent about their rules and make sure they are screening their tenants, and renters should be respectful and understanding of the policies.

@Martin B Andersson   If you are willing to sell them at a price that will yield respectable terms for another investor, you won’t have any trouble selling them as a package (in my opinion).