If anyone else has anything to add. 

Does anyone else have any insight on why I might have lost the deal?

You can find stuff/deals on there you can find no where else

I then got the insurance and also went through the painful process of increasing my cash reserves in case anything else on my unthinkables list should happen.

At Memphis rental price points they don’t have time to mess around with somebody from across the country that could possibly, maybe, someday buy a $90k house that nets him $1600.

Here’s what I’d likely do Send him a letter Explain to him everyone else pays far more in rent and your expenses( taxes insurance water garbage repairs etc .

There is no move In check list, so I am afraid if I make them unhappy with all these changes and they decide to leave, they could trash the place and just say everything was like that before (when I toured the home they had already blamed some things on someone else).Is this a valid fear?

Are there any books or podcast or anything else that you guys recommend?

It ends negotiations one way or another, and that is why people do it, because it messes with the head of the other party, and makes them think things that may or may not be true.

Hello fellow investors, wannabe investors and everybody else.