She is clearly in control of the situation and has you on your heels.

You May have been to a Guru seminar if..........You believe brokers will continually submit deals to you although you have no capitalYou believe lenders look at the property ONLY when considering whether to lend you money, so that your multiple bankruptcies, credit score of 490, and $80,000 in credit card debt won't matterYou think that commercial real estate sellers will accept post dated checks for $100 as sufficent earnest money.You believe no seller is sharp enough to see through the numerous “weasel” clauses you put into your purchase contractsYou are persuaded that the only difference between a $1000 transaction and a $1,000,000 transaction are the amount of 0'sYou believe everyone who critsizes your plan is jealeous and wants to see you failYou believe that 20 years of hands on experience, a four year college degree in real estate and yearly mandatory education seminars can be trumped by the “intense training” 3 day seminar you just paid $7000 for.You believe that the $7000 you just borrowed on your newly increased credit line to pay for that seminar is an “investment”You can't believe people actually wasted $80,000 and four years of their life learning “useless” information in collegeYou believe assembling your real estate “team” is your key to success and a necessary first stepYou believe you can actually contract with the best “players” in the industry although you have no experience, capital, or track recordYou believe that once you find the deal that fits the formula money will come to youYou believe that your Guru has provided you with exclusive information on how to find “bargain” dealsYou believe one in a life time “steals” are an everyday occuranceYou believe you can be successful working “the system” on just weekends and holidaysYou believe the Guru got rich by actually doing real estate deals rather than by using a slick promotional sales and training systemYou believe the personnel provided to assist you are actually real estate investors who actually have experience and knowledge and aren't just some failed salesman reading from a scriptYou believe you're the first person to think of using BiggerPockets as your source of wholesale leads or to build a buyer listYou believe wholesaling is investingYou think the term is “whole selling” not wholesaling.

Regardless, if the property was included in the BK, the trustee is another player in the short sale, just like a junior lender.

You would not technically "own" the property this year, but you would control it- don't know it that qualifies as meeting your goal or not ;)

Remember you don't have to own a property to control it.Download BP’s newest book here some good due diligence in Chapter 10.

I am trying to craft a way to be able to control this property, fix it up a bit to force its appreciation, then seek a loan.Rather than go to the bank for a loan for the triplex AND the refi, is it possible (assuming a willing owner) to lease option the building and have as much of the lease payment as possible (shoot for 100%!!!)

Remember you don't have to own a property to control it.Download BP’s newest book here some good due diligence in Chapter 10.

If the controller is outside , even better , he can set the clock and start times .

Lets look at the players here.

Remember you don't have to own a property to control it.