As anyone who has been in the military can tell you, you ALWAYS have someone telling you what to do, when to do it, how, where, and even with who you have to involve.

The identification must be in writing, signed by you and delivered to a person involved in the exchange like the seller of the replacement property or the qualified intermediary.

PMs told me, there is just not enough incentives for them to really keep a very close eye on the property.  

The title agent from Alabama said this is not needed, but the lender is saying it's needed to meet investor requirements, whatever that means.My wife fully supports my real estate endeavors, but does NOT want to be involved. 

You definitely want to get either a Title company or a lawyer involved who can run a title report to make sure what you are buying and from whom and how much is owed and to whom is as represented.

The plan is one formal meeting each month and other optional meetups like checking out a property, having a local event at someone’s house, and possibly two charity events (5k run/walk with funds raised going to HUD or other group who helps people with housing)You can be as involved as you like.

No financing involve?

PA is a bit difficult or has more "rules" on lease options which also might be why the agent/lender involved are not thrilled about it -  what about a contract for deed or wrap mortgage on their existing mortgage for 9 months ?  

.  :-)Thanks again and I look forwarding to more involvement in the forums as I progress.  

Real estate investing feels right to me and I want to get involved, so I've been reading a lot of books and internet forums trying to learn more.