I spend my time in the exhibitor's area networking – and getting out for breakfasts and dinners with vendors and other investors. 

Here are some other clues to finding family members: Look at the next of kin listed on the death certificate, likely found at your county clerk or recorders office (bureau of vital statistics or similar dept name).Check out obituary for family members, if one was published.Check out where mail is forwarded.Now you're playing the skip trace game.

May have to get together at a local breakfast place, maybe this weekend or next?

The kitchen has a half wall (vertically, not like horizontally as a breakfast bar would) that we are gonna knock down to open up the kitchen to the living room.

#9- Require that your Private Money Lender disclose their full identity, personal and company contact information that can be verified, skip traced along with proof of the nature of their business, bank and client references etc.

There are several skip-tracing companies out there.

I skip traced her and spoke with her and she's open to talking with me, I have and told her I was interested taking the property/properties off her hands and making it easy and fast as possible so she can wash her hands and move and take care of her sister.

Now, If the syndicator "embezzled" the money and skipped town, that's a much different story(I can't tell from the details you gave from your class action suit). 

Basically skipping the middleman (not wholesale) and listing straight on market.

Cold calling is effective you just need more data, when I stopped paying .11 cents for names and .15 cents for skip tracing my business exploded.