No offense, but this just sounds like a catch-22, which would explain the stickiness.

I'm a relative newbie to the game but recently picked up a multi-family with deals under contract and plenty of offers made (hopefully my most recent one will stick!). I

But the fact that they are married seems like a very sticky situation. 

Partnering with any owner gets sticky, you can partner on the buy side.

They want to know that you are the person helping them out of a sticky situation and that they get some money out of the deal.

They kept "picking" people at random from the group, ok I gotta paint this picture for you - the people who answered the ad to work in real estate (like me) were wearing one of those sticky name tags you buy for $5 at Staples, the "PROFESSIONALs" were wearing Nouveau Riche gold name tags.

Nathan Rice

I lived in NJ and it can get sticky hot but I never lived anywhere with central AC in NJ.On the other hand... if your bathrooms are really bad you will get more mileage out of losing the pink tile then central air.

And, I'm very generous with my stickies!  

Maybe a starting point would be a good list of resources for wholesaling as a sticky so it can be found easily.