The reason I ask is that the method of acquisition has a big impact on the financing structures possible. 

Is it likely I can force appreciate a condo like a single-family house so I can BRRR?

It may impact negatively the property value. 

@Jared AdamI would suggest taking a step back from forcing yourself to do a rigorous routine every day.

The SFR we bought was in overall decent shape, and we forced ourselves to reframe our thinking so that we could make some lemonade from the lemons we believe we were given.

If you don't comply you will be forced to evict her and will go on her credit report.

I'm an Air Force vet and aspiring financial planner myself, currently taking the education course for the CFP right now.  

Play around with the numbers in the calculator (purchase price, interest rate, down payment, etc) until you start to see the trends in how each number impacts the deal.

I would like to use my VA Loan and use that as leverage to obtain a small multi family home, live in one unit to have the tenant(s) pay the mortgage , refinance after forced appreciation and then repeating but hopefully growing into commercial properties.

So you will just have to level with your tenant that circumstances force you to sell and you will try to sell to someone that will maintain the property as a rental but you can't guarantee that.