Are there any contingencies or other "sweeteners" we can ask for in cash to help family move, or make up for the low offers. 

Full asking but with 30 days contingency on selling another property3.

The last building we bought for an client of ours that was a mispriced value add deal we offer 50k over asking, no inspection, no contingency what so ever, 50k EM.

@Louis Van Der Westhuizen  With REO's and short sales, you would have to submit your offer to the sellers for acceptance first, so you can use a financing contingency.

Here I think I would offer the seller a lease purchase but make it contingent on a buyer. 

@Brandon Sturgill is right, you can write an offer as contingent upon satisfactory walk-though or inspection and have the ability to see it after you're in contract with the right to terminate if you're not satisfied with the condition. 

as you asking for all contingencies?

@Joseph Grosse , I'd ask the seller to have the inspections completed at the very least as a contingency of your offer. 

Find someone else to fix it for you, try to negotiate better payment terms in the future structured around passing inspections (although your 60/40 payment plan you mentioned is pretty standard), and charge the loss to contingency.

The appraisal contingency report was not sent over.