Their are so many ins and outs that a newcomer is not aware of.

I am looking for advice on how to check to make sure the property does not have any hidden costs that I may not be aware of (liens, unpaid property tax, etc.) that would be my responsibility if I purchase it?

If you are within a few days of closing, or even 4, 5 or  6 days, you may want to call the escrow officer handling the closing and ask them if you can schedule your closing appointment, review a copy of the ALTA Statement, and if they are aware of any delays or issues with your closing.

I am aware of and looking for opportunities like ADUs, finding unique situations, etc.  

Be aware that they may try to 'end around' you with the Emotional Support Animal ruse.

You're basically on the FSBO level.The only exception I'm aware of is a Commercial Real Estate focused brokerage, since it's common for deals to happen in other ways besides MLS.

In Virginia, each party has the option of choosing their own closing service (either an attorney, or title company) -- what differences should a buyer be aware of  when purchasing properties in North Carolina? 

I think next step would be researching the homeowners and seeing if they’re even aware. 

This will vary be lender, but just be aware of that and shop around.Also, as of now, I like the HELOC route, because I don't have to pull all the money out at one time.  

Unless there are other options im not aware of I shouldnt be laughing but is this a first world problem?