In 2010 I managed to pull myself into enough research that I felt confident to attempt to do my first deal however the gentleman who I partnered with was my interested in investing in my horse business then the house business and we went no where despite my attempts to keep him focused. 

Ideally, we'd be zeroed in on one or two neighborhoods, but with the travel, we've decided to remain flexible and keep an eye on one or two in each town.The ultimate goal is, of course, to quit the day job in 2 years and do this full time, allowing us to focus on one town in order to make things more efficient. 

Even though he seemed to be aware of these things when I talked to him I think it helps him build confidence in me since I am 'looking out for him' too.

You can learn a lot on here and from books, and I would strongly suggest you do both, so you can go into your first property first confidence, which comes with knowledge.

This also all happened so fast and I'm not sure I feel confident that I have everything together enough to be ready. 

That will require the ability to instill some sort of confidence in others that you know what you're talking about before they give you money.

I also travel a good amount for my job. 

At best they will spend 30 minutes to an hour with travel. 

So, I wouldn't spend all you have just to get your first deal, unless you can be confident you can do what @Heather Wilkerson did - or it will be your only deal.Can you split the difference - are there markets within driving distance that would allow you not to consume all your funds, but still supervise your team (agent, property manager, contractor, etc.?)

Let me know if there is someone you are confident to recommend for any of this work.