Lived at home for the first 2- years of our marriage, packed our own lunches to work, and other frugal stuff, and saved about $75k. 

Thus far I came with the following metrics:Rental Yields (historic and projection)Mortgage Interest Rates (historic and projection)The spread between the two aboveTaxes (Upon purchase, tax on rent and on capital gains)Tourism (trend)GDP per Capita (historic and projections)Median purchase price per SQFMedian rental price per SQFMedian Free income (after income tax)Nearby Hospitals (existing and planned)Nearby Airports (existing and planned)DoingBusiness Score (various criteria related to Real Estate )Population Growth rates (historic and projections)Nearby Public TransportationDivorce RatesAverage Marriage AgeJob GrowthHousehold Debt (trend and projection)Country Debt (trend and projection)Is there a financial institute that will refinance an asset I purchase at 75% LTV or more (implementing BRRRR)Owners:Renters RatioTenant or Landlord biased law systemHi Tech corporates planning to open HQs in the areaCurrency Inflation/Deflation (historic and projections)Construction permits (historic and projections)Constructions starts (historic and projections)New apartments soldNew apartments median priceExisting apartments SoldExisting apartments median priceTotal debt through Mortgages (historic and projections)Unemployment Rates (Historic and projections)Average number of dates a new/existing apartment is for saleOther demographic attributes and preferences of the locals Thanks,Alon

If you have ever heard of the “marriage penalty,” this is another great example of such penalty because when married, the thresholds stay the exact same as they were when you were single.This poses a problem for high income taxpayers like me, especially when MAGI is above $150,000 (My gross is over $400k/year).

FIL got remarried in 2009, died after only 8 months of marriage.

Nevertheless, this routine has blessed my marriage and helped me whenever I want to pursue something major that requires time and investment.My advice above, however, only addresses the issue of not feeling prioritized.  

If needed my wife can live in the house if marriage plays a factor?

What pisses me off is that they always have people over, I've had teenage kids from previous marriages living there and then their family from abroad, then it was the husbands brother.

Marriage is a legal partnership.

A first day is no marriage.

We also don't know when you acquired the properties -- before or during your marriage, or if you acquired them with community funds, or what Washington state law says regarding out-of-state real property.