Spouse won't support real estate goals? What to do...

[Ryan Enk]

Many people get excited about getting started with real estate and then they talk to their spouse about it, and it totally deflates them.  There are many reasons why spouses don't support the endeavor, but FEAR has got to be on the top of the list.  My wife has never made decisions based on fear, but I want to know some tips and tricks from married veterans who have helped their spouse overcome fear, and how they did it.

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My personal point of view is this: If it's not good for both of you, it's not good for EITHER of you.  And if your spouse doesn't support your real estate goals, it will be VERY HARD to accomplish them.

My wife doesn't make fear based decisions, BUT, she DOES want to remain a PRIORITY in my life and sometimes my new ventures make her worry that she will get less time from me.  So my personal tip for anyone in that situation is to make first things first.

The first thing I do in the morning is get up early (5ish) and spend time with my wife.  We do something called a T.R.I.P.  The T stands for Thankful where we say what we are grateful for.  This is my personal favorite because the focus first thing in the morning isn't the toilet seat I left up or the dirty socks on the floor.  It causes the mind to focus on gratitude instead.  The R stands for reflection where we read something from the Bible or watch one of my entrepreneur type videos or books and then reflect on it.  The I stands for Intentions.  We pray for people and things in our life.  And the P stands for Planning so we can both be on the same page throughout the day.

To be honest, sometimes the TRIP becomes a (TR...) because we have 5 kids and get interrupted.  Nevertheless, this routine has blessed my marriage and helped me whenever I want to pursue something major that requires time and investment.

My advice above, however, only addresses the issue of not feeling prioritized.  But the #1 issue from spouses is fear.  What are your tips to address fear with a spouse?