That being said I am looking to pick up some property but i dont believe I would qualify for traditional financing due to DTI.

A fourplex would be more traditional based on what you're looking at doing, however you could do 2 ADUs. 

That is with a traditional lender or bank.

Right now it appears leveraging commercial contractors and construction methods may make a bit more sense than trying to build or flip a traditional stick.

The bank doesn't care how much you borrowed from the hard money lender (you may know that but I think it's worth pointing out.)It doesn't sound like you've actually found either a hard money lender, or a traditional lender for the refi yet.  

3) besides a traditional mortgage broker, what other sources do you recommend using to find lending?

@Christian Espana Check out NARPM, National Association of Residential Property Managers website, you can look by state and area.

The 203k loans can be tricky at the best of times and right now it can be difficult getting a seller to accept a traditional FHA offer.

I have read something before about them being first position on the property until I were to refinance into traditional financing if I were to be using the BRRRR strategy but I am not 100% sure how that works in terms of contracts. 

For example, a company called Rhino offers "insurance" instead of a traditional deposit.