So why bother with someone unproven who is very likely to be a tire-kicker or simply not qualified to close.That is why I recommend that people put together a broker credibility package that establishes you as serious player and sets forth in very great detail what you are looking for, where, what price you are willing to pay, your ability to close, your closing team, the speed at which you are willing to close, whether you have relationships with lenders, other deals you've done before, etc.But you do not send this to a broker until you have already gotten a warm introduction from someone you both know.  

As long as you include a 'due diligence' clause saying you can cancel the contract at the end of that period you should be covered.Not sure why you are even worried about who pays what closing cost if you're in a hot market and are a serious player.

Or, they just ask me for my contacts and proceed to destroy my reputation with the players in my market.All people want is something for nothing, instantaneous gratification, basically a diseased mentality.

@Mindy Jensen How can I get in IPhone podcast player?

You will learn who the real players are when you attend faithfully either locally and online. 

Find a partner (identify local players; REI groups; BP) who will expect something of you. 

I have built relationships with the players in the area and they get me pocket listings that meet my parameters.Swanny

Columbus is also home to The Ohio State University, one of the largest public universities in the country, as well as L Brands, a big player in the retail industry. 

The reality is that the more connected the players are, the more money they make and the less you know.

Like I just told them I want to be a professional poker player.