You can take a modest size deposit like $5k which covers your cost and finance the rest. 

Move if you have to in order to get promoted, geoarbitrage, save more, invest, automate, cut spending to only what adds value to your life, invest the rest.  

I'm working with a person on their team I really like too (both credibility and personality wise).Numbers wise:Property: $221kDP & Closing: $50k - rest loaned through conventional. 

Similar to the rest of the US, the only real change we're seeing is only being affected by the interest rates!

I was going to help my primary residence for a down payment and get a loan for the rest.

@Nate Sanow thank you so much for the advice, you make a great point, I think people are absolutely more respective to honesty and kindness, the rest eventually follows.

You bring the equity and potentially the debt and they do the rest.

-IF it is not a leaker, then proceed to your purchase at whatever terms you are currently discussing.Depending on how willing the seller is to work with you, this may work out in your favor to have the insurance of having them remove (and provide the official documentation).

All the rest of the story is inconsequential to the fact that the title is held by the EX.The only caveat, if NY has changed its laws that require spousal sign-off of the sale, then your godmother might have a say. 

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