About 1.5 years ago, I purchased (conventional loan) and have been living in a 3x3.5 townhouse with a family member (brother) in a first attempt to start building equity through a house hack/BRRR strategy. 

Not being familiar with California laws I would advise consulting an attorney to attempt to either raise the rent if possible or to evict.

I don’t always raise the rent fully to market value in an attempt to try to keep the tenants.

Sounds like it is more of a seasoning issue with the banks that you attempted to go with.How long ago did you purchase the property?

Hi Natalie, My husband is content to listen to my goals and okay with me using our mutual funds to acquire our first property, he was even okay with me continuing on this path after my first attempt at a duplex house hack fell through leaving us apartment hopping.

Before her stroke I was actively investing on her behalf in an attempt to allow her to retire.

My first attempt at renting my SFH resulted in bad tenants damaging my home and I had to fire my property management company. 

What are things i need to consider when attempting to re-hab the property when it's a long distance?

I think @Bruce Woodruff and @Matthew Paul have already done a good job explaining why this isn't a good idea and why most, if not all, GCs will not be interested in participating.In an attempt to answer your original question, according to GlassDoor the average annual pay for a construction PM (sounds like that's more or less what you're looking for?)

Im trying to attempt a short sale, but goodleap won’t accept a 6k settlement.