So a quick question.If you were to owe taxes at ordinary income why not give a big chunk of that to charity??

I may be seen as particularly unsympathetic here, but I did want to point out that you are not his family or his psychiatrist or doctor or responsible for his welfare, but you are actually responsible for your own family's well-being, especially as it sounds like you live next door and this is likely an important investment for you, not a charity.  

I agree than ANY metal, should be piled seperate, and saleable,/useable stuff sold or give away to needy or charity. 

What the consignment shops don't want to deal with, donate to your favorite charity.

Once RMDs kick in, there is something called the Qualified Charitable Distribution where taxpayers can direct up to 100k of their RMD to a charity and it won't be included in the taxpayer's income.

get a private pilot license and give the rest to charity.

In my trust all property assets are to be converted to cash and disbursed to charities, relatives etc. personal property is either given away or to be sold.

I'm not running a charity.

I couldn't make it to that one due to a charity benefit I had to attend.

You are running a business and not a charity.