Keep in mind this might be spread out over 2 up to 7 years depending on your site selection and the economy.6. 

I really don’t want to lose this buyer—what’s the best way to make this work?

I have been lurking on the site and attended webinars for a while but I am just here to learn and I am soaking it all up!

But the mindset remains that the structure just loses its value over time.That's not to say I think property investing in Japan cannot work -- it's just the parameters are quite different from places like the US (like many things in Japan!).

You’ll lose any property tax caps they may have enjoyed and be increased to the non-owner occupant tax. 

Warning:If you depreciate a property down near zero and then have to sell your property at a loss during a situation of distress...You could end up giving all the proceeds to the bank AND owe the IRS a big chunk of money for recapture.Long-term tax planning with real estate needs to be coupled with risk management and making sure you don't lose any properties.

Community that will not lose value, but possibly gain. 

Quote from @Brandon Morgan: If you screw up a deal with a friend or relative, you will lose money and the relationship.

I dont know the delivery time on a ADU but I'd assume same with site plans and zoning. but how do you get your money out of that?

Most investors make the same rookie mistake: They focus on problems instead of people.
Telling sellers everything wrong with their house and justifying your offer with repair costs doesn’t build trust—it kills it.
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