This weeded out a lot part time Brokers that did not seem to grasp the need to perform certain tasks, ie the call back in a reasonable amount of time. 

I know you aren't in the military...but I think this article might really help you get a better grasp on investing while overseas: Investing in American Real Estate While Serving in the US MilitaryIt's packed with great info on investing from a distance, so it's applicable even to those who aren't in the military!

If we wanted to reuse VA loan on another primary house my lender suggests it would be difficult for the underwriters to grasp moving into a multi family after owning a larger property less than 10 miles away.So that leads me into going in as investment propertyWhat would be the best way for funding heloc?

My first multi-family was a 4-unit and I believe it's a great-sized unit for a first deal, and as someone on BP once said, the jump from a 4-unit to a 20-unit isn't that much (judging you have mastered running the 4-unit).I wish you the best, and although your significant other may never grasp real estate, you can be a great mate and provider by making it happen. 

People who think it's a proverbial skinned elbow are trippin' and haven't grasped the numbers yet IMO.

Feels like I have a good grasp on rents, but I’ll do more research to verify! 

That is also tough for Americans to grasp.

I think we, as a society, need to grasp the concept that "Poor" doesn't mean you don't have money...

After grasping Wholesaling, would love to broaden my real estate investments to other things, i.e Tax Lien, Tax Deed, etc.Right now, I am wholesaling in-state, North Carolina.  

I always seem to grasp ideas better when they are explained in this form.