He wanted to ask me tons of questions to see if I was a good fit but wouldn't answer any of my questions when it came down to how much the program costs or what I was actually getting as a member. 

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That would be an ideal scenario for them. 

Also, if you were in our position, what questions should we be asking the lenders to make sure it is a good fit?

Something a couple of my beginner investors like to do is live in the property for a year or two then move into the next one and rent out the first one.Most important thing you can do is research the different niches within real estate investing and decide what fits best for you.

Ideally not too much of both.The best way to learn what makes a good deal is to just keep analyzing.

Diversifying geographically can also reduce risk and increase long-term returns.For example, there are several markets across the U.S. that are ideal for new investors because they offer affordable entry points, reliable cash flow, and strong economic fundamentals.

Ideally the owner would handle everything and would have no need for a property management company with only this single duplex in their portfolio. 

We had an accounting system once that necessitated doing this - not ideal, but it keeps the assets and liabilities straight and AP is just an accrual until you pay the bill.

Ideally would be purchasing some land out there & using our building background to do something unique.