I've seen some wholesalers say that they are consistently getting deals on the MLS- their method involves making LOTS of lowball offers.

I've found a few BRRR candidates but realitors I've spoken to so far while nice and helpful don't seem very knowledgable for this method I want to do single family homes using the BRRR method.

@Jay Hinrichs Thanks for the tip...What methods would you suggest would help me with those skills before actually doing it in real time?

My advice to you and your wife and my own personal method for someone who also lives in North County San Diego(Escondido) is to take advantage of your VA loan and buy a primary house first.

I’m local to the KC market and work with investors on the turnkey side as well as some on the Brrrr method.

I have done this method in the past and seems to work just fine in most situations.

I'm a veteran as well and use the BRRRR method (out of state), it's EASY.

I am looking at using flipping and BRRRR methods for my own personal REI.

My problem with the 3rd (and easiest for the landlord) method is that could end up being quite a few people who don't have a chance of qualifying that end up paying a non-refundable background check etc fee. 

Nope, for the most part you have to look through all the listings like everyone else, but many search methods will let you filter for short sales, and agents can filter for short sales, probate, REOs etc.